Frequently Asked Questions
- Why are there so many events?
Traditional Indian weddings tend to be a multi-day combination of ceremonies and celebrations, and different communities have different names and customs for each. We’re keeping it light actually, with just 2 days! On the day before (Thursday) the bride and groom will be having separate blessing ceremonies in the morning: the Mehndi and Nelengu respectively. The night before is generally a big party filled with music and dancing called a Sangeet. Ours will be a simple, informal gathering at our home, where we invite you to pop in, have a bite and a glass, and generally just hang out with us before the formal stuff the next day — the actual wedding and reception. The Thursday events are all completely optional, but we’d love to have you share in them with us. For more details on exactly what will be happening, when and where, see the Events page.
- When should I RSVP by?
Please RSVP by 30 September 2026 and ensure that you complete any dietary requirements for each guest on the invite.
- What is the dress code for each event?
Mehndi / Nelengu: Bright, festive colours (yellows / oranges). Casual or semi-formal. Eastern if you prefer.
Sangeet: It’s an informal gathering, so please feel free to wear whatever you’re most comfortable in.
Wedding Ceremony: Please wear traditional Indian attire (e.g. saris, lehengas, kurtas — see the Attire pagefor full details). We encourage bright, festive colours. Please avoid wearing pure white (that’s for funerals), red and gold (that’s what the bride will be wearing) and jeans (I made Marlan add this in).
- What time should I arrive?
Mehndi / Nelengu: Arrive at 10am.
Sangeet: Arrive at 5pm, or whenever you’d like to pop in before 9pm.
Wedding Ceremony: Arrive at 3pm, which is 30 minutes before the ceremony begins, to allow time for parking, seating, and to ensure the ceremony starts on time.
- Can I bring a plus one or additional guests?
Only guests named on your invitation are invited to celebrate with us. We appreciate your understanding as we keep our guest list intimate.
We love your little ones! However, unless specifically named on your invitation, please arrange a sitter.
- Will there be parking?
Yes, parking will be available at the wedding venue and at our home for the Sangeet gathering.
- What happens after the ceremony?
Following the ceremony, guests will enjoy welcome drinks and canapés while the couple takes photos.
The reception, dinner, speeches, and dancing will follow shortly afterwards — so come ready to celebrate!
- What time will the celebration end?
The celebration wraps up at 11:30pm.
- Is accommodation available nearby?
We’ll add some places near the venue on the Accommodation page. Anywhere in Durbanville should be close enough.
The Cape Town CBD is 40 minutes away; however, please allow for at least an hour in traffic on the day to arrive on time.
- Is there a gift registry?
Your presence is the greatest gift we could ask for.
If you would like to celebrate with a gift, we have included our registry details on your invitation.
- Who do I contact if I have a question?
You can reach us on WhatsApp, just like any other time.